Pam was only in my life for a short time. Sadly she committed suicide and I lost a very dear friend. A dear friend that I had never met but who know me so so well...and I knew her very well too. I think perhaps because we knew we would probably never meet, we felt able to tell each other everything. Pam was there when my marriage was falling apart....she listen and understood and I did the same for her....because at the same time her marriage was in trouble too....she separated from her Husband for a while..they eventually got back together shortly before she died, but I think she was very confused as to whether her marriage would survive. Pam was there when I reall needed someone who wouldn't judge me. I think Pam and Lloyd were probably the only two people in the WORLD who didn't judge me! Her suicide shocked me...mainly because her reason for it was something she had not shared with anyone (sadly until afterwards)
I truly truly believe she came into my life for a reason. I treasure the little momentoes I have of her - some notecards she sent me...a letter...some Emails and photographs......and her memorial service notes.
When I read this poem I can almost divide my friends up into the different kinds.....I guess in the end it doesn't matter which section friends are in.....whether they are there for the long haul of life or just a little while - they are all friends!
And Kathy - thank you for including me in your list of friends to send this to :) it was a lovely Email to wake up to today! Thank you Friend :)
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life
